Remember this quote?
Sometimes I think I take on freelance articles about random things in order to give myself a reason to procrastinate. It’s the best way that I get into the nitty gritty stuff that I actually love to think about…
Anyways, now that I’m done the draft of my freelancing article, it’s safe for me to blog without abandon.
So to recap, I “worked” on my piece at Starbucks this afternoon.
There was a snack.
There was a swim with Angela (a leisurely 2k for me more for the excuse to hang out with a friend I’ve been missing than to swim, though who wouldn’t rather splish splash than pack or work on an assignment?).
There was dinner.
…but there was no froyo. Dark chocolate (this is just a portion of what I had — my bad) won out:
Enjoyed from the comfort of my futon, I guess it was a win since like I said, I managed to pound out my article draft tonight. Success! I also think it’s pretty funny that when I was mixing around on my blogroll I noticed Nell’s latest post on Paleoista (“Frozen Yogurt For Lunch”). She’s right…and with all the chit chat about “getting away with” certain foods that we’ve been having (keep up the awesome comments, I absolutely love to hear what you guys are thinking) I thought this would be another interesting one to look at.
I know in the past I’ve skipped dinner in favour of froyo and justified it in 1209120 ways. In reality, it is what it is. Whatever your “diet” is or however you approach eating, you’ve got to sort things out for yourself. For me, chocolate, froyo, beer, etc. are things that I like and consume even though they’re not a source of nutrients. Plain and simple. They’re more often than not a social thing. A year ago, I definitely wasn’t thinking this way so it’s pretty cool that I’m cool with it, if you know what I mean! Then, I’d let eating these things tell me I was out of control and then I would be out of control…no more!
Anyways, if you can’t tell that I’m in a reflective mood, I am!
This afternoon I reflected back on a chat I had with Dr. Kreso about defining values. I made a big list and then started to really look at them. Important, he said, would be looking at them and seeing if there were any missing links–incongruence, so to speak, which I tried my best to do as I narrowed down a list of about 20 to a solid 8 that I think I’ll share and comment on here. Without defined values, it’s hard to know what you stand for. With defined values, it’s easy to make decisions on purpose. Another tip he gave me was to turn them into actionable things — taking them from adjectives to adverbs or verbs even.
So without further ado, here come the values and their action forms with an example of why I know they matter to me:
- Community: I am creating a community and a sense of shared belonging. Example: I love getting people together. Random groups of awesome people who I know who I think will get along—I’m always the one inviting different groups of my friends to the same party or outing and seeing what goes down (it’s usually a lot of fun). Also, there’s a reason I love blogging and commenting and being commented on and tweeted at so much.
- Contribution: I am making a valuable contribution to the world. Example: I firmly believe that the lessons I learned in my eating disorder recovery were worth sharing. I think that people should know how I did it. I want to contribute my unique story, my unique gift to the world. I also contribute my thoughts, my workout plans, my playlists…
- Daring: I am daring to be different. Example: I cut all my hair off. I pierced my nose and my lip. I take chances—saying no to Columbia and deciding to pursue something unconventional with myself instead of sticking to what’s safe.
- Integrity: I am true to myself and my beliefs. Example: I have never hidden a thing on this blog. During my recovery, I wouldn’t have been able to go to bed pretending that I was recovered if I was really bingeing or stressing over food. If it was going down, you were going to know about it. I think we can all recognize when someone is being honest and I think appreciation should be for those who are speaking their truth, no apologies involved.
- Ambition: I am going big or not going at all. Example: I am not looking for a job at Goodlife this fall to pay the bills just because I’ve graduated. I want to be a part of something bigger and I refuse to settle. Ditto for when I decided I wanted to be a journalist–there’s a reason I was able to get into all the schools I applied to (including my out of my wildest dreams Columbia dream school) within a year of deciding I wanted it.
- Health: I am making choices that value my health and the positive. Example: Rather than worrying about what it’s going to do to my butt, I’m fuelling myself and eating based on intuition. I’m going for whole foods and feeding myself things that make me feel and function at my best. I value my health for the fact that it enables me to live an awesome and full life.
- Growth: I am constantly seeking to grow and better myself. Example: Even though I’m “recovered”, I am working with a life coach. Even though I’m not sick, I’m actively creating health in my life. Every day I’m trying to be better and to learn something that makes my world a little bigger than the day before.
- Enthusiasm: I am doing things that excite me. Example: My decision to go with “if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no” as a mantra has made this one a no brainer. If, for example, a workout is something I say I “should” do, I don’t do it. That leaves me with the things that make my heart sing, which leaves me with a great attitude and excitement for just about everything I do. Even the things that I “complain” about (freelance article writing), I get excited about–I love the pitching, interviewing, researching, and the accomplishment associated with working on and finishing an article.
Now’s where you get to weigh in. Do you see incongruence? If you want to shout at me because you think that the suggestion that I value health but eat froyo like it’s going out of style is ridiculous, I want to hear it! Don’t be shy.
I’m also interested in whether or not you think it’s worth it to sit down and do this kind of self-exploration. Are you the type who would do this? Have you already done it?
And don’t forget to comment on the froyo post by Nell — I’m excited to hear your take on that too!